The opposite of these words could be harshness , criticism, lack of love, aggression, being hard on those who fail or do not agree with us.

恩慈、良善的相反就是对人严苛、喜欢批评、缺乏爱心和尖酸刻薄。当别人失败或与自己意见不合时，便会恣意攻击和诋毁。

Try to do it each time you catch yourself being hard on yourself so that you do not spend the whole day, week, etc. with this negative thought going through your head.

试着在每一次你对自己严苛的时候做这样的功课，以便你不用在一整天或整个星期等等带着这些负面的想法过活。